Positive lies about yourself are no more secure a foundation for actualization that negative lies.
Understanding and taking responsibility for yourself as a particular individual in your own care is the beginning of actualization, maturity, and integration.
No amount of positive or negative self talk can paper over your essential nature. The underlying features of who you are will show through and affect your behavior wherever you go. Hiding them from yourself and from others will only make it easier to get yourself into situations where you don’t understand and can’t predict or control how you will behave or how others will respond.
Authenticity is not blindness and denial, nor is it blindness and assertion. Who you are is a negotiation between what you are made of, how you express it, what you could do, and who you could become. It is a process of awareness of and assumed responsibility for both the past and the future in the present moment.
Confidence cannot be built on knowing or controlling what other people will do, or what the world around you will present you with. This kind of confidence relies on naiveté and an assumption of control that you don’t have.
Making Nobody Happy 