Tyrannical femininity expresses itself through an invitation. Tyrannical masculinity expresses itself through a confrontation. Both have similar ends. Both are trying to $#@& you over. They just have different ways of doing it.
In the feminine power structure, if you don’t make yourself pleasing, if you don’t come in and make yourself fit, you’ll be cast out. You’ll be denied access to the promised comforts, security, belonging, pleasures, companionship, kindness, and provision. If you do make yourself pleasing, you’ll be accepted, but you’ll also be devoured. You’ll be possessed. It is an invitation to an open mouth, to perfume and kisses. It won’t meet you at one point or from one direction and confront you, it will take hold of you from all directions, soft and yielding, but complete and encompassing. You can’t force your way through it; you can only retreat to escape, abandoning your position.
This is a tool, a power, that can be used for tyrannical purposes. It can’t be taken away from women, because the feminine possesses it by nature. All you can do is learn to wield it well yourself, teach others how to use it for good uses, and teach everyone how to resist it when it is being used tyranically. There are systems we can put in place, ancient wisdom and current practices, as well as natural checks and counterbalances, that can be used to help confine and direct and channel this power into its most virtuous and productive and beneficial embodiment.
Making Nobody Happy 