From a very candid letter to my spouse. It’s taken me some time to figure out my own feelings about sex, and even longer to get together the confidence to talk about it. So here, in no particular order, are some things that are true about sex and myself. First, I’m a sexual vampire. No,Continue reading “Spicy meatball warning: A guide to sex”
Author Archives: Mr Nobody
Social media fears
In response to fears and shame my wife felt over an article she posted. About taking a complex and not reductive view of people. I understand. I also understand that what you wrote is personal because in many ways you’re speaking to yourself and your own struggles (as many people often are). What you shouldContinue reading “Social media fears”
Whether we need the law for salvation
I can answer, at least, one fairly concrete question that was in there. Are people capable of good or improvement, apart from salvation? I think the obvious answer is yes. The Bible has saved people doing bad things and unsaved people doing good things, which sometimes lead to salvation, sometimes not (or at least itsContinue reading “Whether we need the law for salvation”
More on whether we need the law
This diversion is entirely tangential, and has nothing to do directly with any of the preceding stuff things I said about the law. It’s in response to so much of what my wife has to deal with in her work and how often she has to justify it to Christians. It’s funny, she has spentContinue reading “More on whether we need the law”
On Christianity, liberalism, Trump, and Women
It is very sadly the case that in this particular area of moral concern, that of treating women with respect and validating their hurts and fears and injustices against them, that Christians have not been leading the way lately in the public eye, but have generally been observed to be on the defending side, protectingContinue reading “On Christianity, liberalism, Trump, and Women”
Some thoughts on whether we need laws
There seems to be some odd idea that a nation is some sort of distinct thing apart from the people who make it up. A nation is nothing but the sum of its people. When the people are gone, it is gone. We create structures, physical, legal, structural. But those structures are merely the expressionContinue reading “Some thoughts on whether we need laws”
On endings and facing death
“Everything ends, and that’s always sad. But everything always begins again, and that’s always happy. Be happy.” When considering death, there’s so much we tell ourselves, and so much we don’t. We see our lives in our stories, and so we tell the story of our lives to understand its ending. If the story wasContinue reading “On endings and facing death”
On Infinity War
There’s a lot you could say about this movie. Here’s my sort of spoiler review. It was an amazing experience, the biggest cinematic experience I’ve ever had, certainly the most emotional. It’s the ultimate comic book movie and a great end to the MCU. If I were to pick out my only tiny nitpicks, theContinue reading “On Infinity War”
Love
Love is forgetful. Love doesn’t remember it that way. Doesn’t remember how you vomited on the Floor. How you broke that, how stupid you looked, how cruel, how shallow. Love doesn’t want To remember. Love forgets each new day and Only remembers that best day. That Sunshine in your eyes. Love is viscious. Love knowsContinue reading “Love”
On reciprocal racism
Before I begin, I want to clarify that what I have to say here is primarily intended for white people arguing internally about the subject of racism. If I were talking to other races about racism, that would be another context and need another discussion. This is aimed toward the internal discussion whiteness in AmericaContinue reading “On reciprocal racism”
On frustration with partisanship
I’ve been thinking about this subject a lot lately, but had decided not to post about it for fear of all the potential anger and stone throwing it might illicit. I’ve made a certain criticism many times that people see the world in too simplistic of terms. They can’t seem to separate in their mindsContinue reading “On frustration with partisanship “
On belief in God
https://youtu.be/TUD3pE3ZsQI A few comments. It’s a long video, but interesting. I don’t agree with everything in it, of course, but it’s interesting. This position sort of comes down to recognizing that, regardless of whether the Judeo-Christian religion is empirically true in all its details, it is at least philosophically, psychologically, and archetypically true, and maybeContinue reading “On belief in God”
Me too?
I never realized until today how much I hate the “stop hitting yourself” game. Apparently so much that I forbid my children from playing it. My daughter must have learned it at school. And it brought up a surprising amount of resentment and hatred in me. Generally speaking, I don’t find fun in any typeContinue reading “Me too?”
On concepts and their limits
The limiting problem with concepts, when we focus too tightly on them, is that they obscure and remove the inherent mysteriousness of actual facts and objects. Concepts can only be themselves, consistent within themselves and in opposition to or complementation to other concepts. But actual things tend to be far more messy. The concepts ofContinue reading “On concepts and their limits “
On race and being American
It always did seem so weird to me when you would read certain older books and realize Italians weren’t considered white. And I still genuinely don’t get how anyone, including white supremacists, can not consider Jewish people white. They’re, like, the heroes of white people. Educated, industrious, wealthy, funny, fashionable, well established and influential inContinue reading “On race and being American”
Why the best teachers don’t give answers
You cannot easily give definitive answers to the deepest problems of life. If you could, they would not be so contentious as they are and provoke so many responses. A good teacher can’t give you all the answers. What a truly good teacher does is to make the questions clearer. The moment of embracing anContinue reading “Why the best teachers don’t give answers”
On atonement
It’s hard to say what my own position on atonement theory is, and I prefer not to share many specific details of what I think. But I’m going to take a stab at articulating it. I suppose I would be classified as a Christian evangelical. But I’m probably overly influenced by people like C.S. LewisContinue reading “On atonement”
Way way way too much, on the subject of why I care about swimsuits
I was curious to study my own behavior and answer: “Why go to the effort of buying swimsuits for my wife?” In an objective sense, it’s completely unnecessary and unimportant. So why even expend the effort? Well, I think it must just be one of those things that, while not really important in any sense,Continue reading ” Way way way too much, on the subject of why I care about swimsuits”
On depression
What is depression? I am my depression. It is Me. And my depression is the world. We are one. It is where the Reality of my mind and heart touch the World. And the world touches back. It’s hands pressed up against the window Matching mine. And the truth is Somewhere in that space betweenContinue reading “On depression”
Only time is adamantine
Only time is adamantine. Only one hardest substance serves As an armor impervious To all ventures. Not a thousand years of tearing and Scratching with desperate hands serve to carve Even a single, transparent curl From the surface of one moment. Bright and fixed for eternity; Unchangeable, unreachable Before your eyes. Untouchable. My eyes searchContinue reading “Only time is adamantine”
Making Nobody Happy 