I haven’t read the book Untamed, and in order to criticize something you should definitely read it. I’m just not sure I want to spend my time on it. But a quick glance offered me enough insight that I think I could get at a lot of its major take-home points. A book like thatContinue reading “Speculation about the content of Untamed”
Tag Archives: Sex
Birth of the goddess
Spicy meatball warning. Offensive, personal, not at all polite or correct. Prepare for some shocking imagery. I believe it to be necessary to really adrress this subject honestly and unblinkingly. The unvarnished reality of it. I know that in some ways I’m violating my own points I made in my entry about Cuties. There areContinue reading “Birth of the goddess”
Response to the Dark Horse podcast
Here is the relevant clip. This is actually just a transcript of a comment I posted on that video. https://youtu.be/JZ_MEX0vtRE I just read a whole book on this subject called Cheap Sex. In which it is argued by a sex researcher that the economics of sex have shifted so that the cost of it, andContinue reading “Response to the Dark Horse podcast”
Cuties, part 2
An afterword about sexual taboos. Please skip if you’re easily offended. The topic of discussion is taboos we have already dropped and what ones we may still drop. So no matter where you are in the timeline of taboo holding or taboo rejecting, you’ll probably find something to be offended about. On a side note,Continue reading “Cuties, part 2”
Cuties
The film Cuties has raised some ethical problems about popular art. One particular problem is, where do you draw the line between exposure of an issue and exploitation of an issue? It may have been the intent of the filmmaker to criticize the sexualization of children. On the other hand, she did it by showingContinue reading “Cuties”
Gender and cooperation
Although tyranny was often an outcome, as it is of any structured political or economic system, specialization into certain roles was also, in the main, a byproduct of local historical conditions and assumptions (both of which had a grounding in empirical personal and cultural experience, experimentation, consequences, and adaptation). Local systems didn’t just arise fromContinue reading “Gender and cooperation”
Modern expressions of innate sexual instincts
What percent of current political conditions results from the scaled up and transposed familiar instincts in men and women? Those instincts, at the most basic level of society, are fundamental. They’re hard coded into humanity. All subsequent levels of complexity build upon them and extrapolate them. And traditionally society was built from the bottom up,Continue reading “Modern expressions of innate sexual instincts”
The value of parents, and the failure of their substitutes
The great contribution of parenthood is the ability to convey the greatest depth of love in complement with the greatest of expectations. Nothing less is sufficient to raise human beings to their fullest potential. And neither separately is a stable strategy. It is only by advancing them together, in balance, that the greatest levels ofContinue reading “The value of parents, and the failure of their substitutes”
Marriage as a test for parenthood
Is it possible that being married is, in some ways, the best test of and training ground for whether you’re capable of being a good parent? Especially for men, but likely for everyone? Children demand so much and offer so little back. If you can’t accept a different person’s interests as your own and fleshContinue reading “Marriage as a test for parenthood “
What the sexes owe one another
Marriage is a strange but curiosly persistent and widespread arrangement. How humanity arrived at it, whether by nature or by divine appointment, if there is any sense in making such a distinction from the perspective of the time, isnt really my concern here, and isn’t a question that can be empirically answered. It certainly seemsContinue reading “What the sexes owe one another”
Why sex must always be sacred
Sex must be sacred because it is a psychological necessity that it be so. The proliferation of ritual, religious significance, taboos, ideals, legends, and art across the entire world that focus on sex is an inescapable universal phenomenon. We cannot help but turn sex into a temple, a god, a ritual, an idol. It isContinue reading “Why sex must always be sacred “
Would men care about women without sex?
One thing I sometimes wonder is, what percentage of the love, attention, and respect that men show women is due to their sexual attraction to them? I’m willing to bet that it’s a lot. Looking at how men act toward men, there’s a lot of competition. There’s not a huge amount of personal interest. MenContinue reading “Would men care about women without sex? “
What makes sexual alternatives attractive?
I’ve been rolling a lot of ideas around in my head for a long time, trying to figure out what it is that’s attractive about numerous aspects of sexuality. Specifically, pornography, prostitutes, and certain aspects of other alternative sexual cultures. One huge problem with almost everything everyone has to say about sex is that theyContinue reading “What makes sexual alternatives attractive?”
On misogyny and child marriage
That was a great article bringing attention to the work of that doctor. It sounds like she did a lot of great at work helping women. And this is purely a comment about what’s most helpful in diagnosing and fixing problems. I’m not sure it’s enough to label child marriage as misogyny. The cause ofContinue reading “On misogyny and child marriage”
Me too?
I never realized until today how much I hate the “stop hitting yourself” game. Apparently so much that I forbid my children from playing it. My daughter must have learned it at school. And it brought up a surprising amount of resentment and hatred in me. Generally speaking, I don’t find fun in any typeContinue reading “Me too?”
Way way way too much, on the subject of why I care about swimsuits
I was curious to study my own behavior and answer: “Why go to the effort of buying swimsuits for my wife?” In an objective sense, it’s completely unnecessary and unimportant. So why even expend the effort? Well, I think it must just be one of those things that, while not really important in any sense,Continue reading ” Way way way too much, on the subject of why I care about swimsuits”
Warning, spicy meatball: in defense of oral sex
Spicy meatball warning!!! Explicit content. I just can’t be bothered with innuendo or euphemisms, so I’m just going to be radically explicit. This is actually a heavily edited version of the original. So if you’re easily shocked, imagine the first draft. The rest of the world is shoving a cheap and shallow, explicit version ofContinue reading “Warning, spicy meatball: in defense of oral sex”
Why are men obvious and women opaque?
There is a small matter that works at my thoughts, demanding attention. Obviously, the way we approach our need for one another can and has resulted in some terrible abuses. Because it’s such a powerful fundamental aspect of our identities, because it’s so tied to our life and survival as a species, its a prettyContinue reading “Why are men obvious and women opaque? “
How should we regulate sex?
It’s a difficult subject to tackle, how we should approach sex. Sex, both as an identity and as as an activity, I mean. Yes, societies have done various things throughout history, but generally they’ve let instinct and necessity dictate the terms. And on the side, once they’ve paid tribute to what need to be doneContinue reading “How should we regulate sex?”
What is romance?
Friendship is the enjoyment of lives lived in parallel. Romance is the desire to unite your story with someone else’s. We enjoy drama and excitement and a sense of occasion in that unity, we want it to have a sense of occasion. There’s a delight in the ritual and in performing the rites of significance.Continue reading “What is romance?”
Making Nobody Happy 